The kind of love we deserve

LOVE. That’s it! All we need is love. Sounds clich√© but in reality, all people need love because we are all created from love. Yes, all of us exist because of love.


But, do we really know the meaning of love? We almost always lost for words to define what love is. During my teenage years, I always relied on what I saw on the books and what other people had said. But, to be honest, I really didn’t have an in depth understanding of love back then. I thought it was just an emotion felt by two people. Eventually, I realised that it is more than that.¬†Love can be in different forms, it can be towards a person, dream, work or even material things.

They say love yourself first before loving anybody – I totally agree with this. But how can you apply self-love if you don’t even know what it is, right?

I used to ask myself why lovers break up, dreams don’t come true, workers quit their job and why some people become so broken or empty. And I am guessing it is because they have wrong connotation about love.

I bumped into a bible verse that changed my perspective towards love.

1 Corinthians 13:4-7

“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.”

And regardless of your belief, I think this is the best definition of love and the kind of love we are all worthy – do not settle for anything less than what you deserve.

Choose the love that tolerates delay and have willingness to wait.

Choose the love that is governed by goodness.

Choose the love that knows contentment.

Choose the love that does not boast and is not proud of temporary things.

Choose the love that respects.

Choose the love that puts their good for your good.

Choose the love that is selfless and easily forgives.

Choose the love that does not delight in wickedness and is true and honest.

Lastly, choose the love that will make you feel safe, confident, faithful, and strong.